Write it! Even if it’s gobbledygook

How do you want to liveI’m a practicing Reiki Master who uses words, all words, like tools in a carpenter’s toolbox. If I need them, I take them out with confidence. If I don’t, I leave them alone with the same mastery.

I’m also a practicing life coach. I’m a practicing artist, and writer and life long learner.

Just recently, I saw an interview between Brene Brown and Oprah (both of whom I adore). They were talking about the best teachers. They both agreed that the best teachers are also forever students.

Those who realize that they must always be open to learning new things, are the ones who are going to succeed at teaching.

My last teaching experience was frustrating at least, and maddening at best. I felt like some surreal Alice after the rabbit hole, but before the tea party. The entire experience drained me at a fragile place in my emotional life. I wasn’t mentally tough enough. I wasn’t grounded or centered enough. I wasn’t prepared for the curt, sharp, or rude. All three blind sided me. I became unhealthy as that one year assignment dredged on.

I questioned myself. I take ownership of the entire experience because I didn’t put my foot down, or stand up tall enough and even though I sought help, it felt like a hamster on a wheel. My words didn’t go anywhere. It was a bad fit from the beginning. I could say a lot about the place, or the people, but what good would that do? It just wasn’t for me, and my psychosocial emotional health suffered as a result.

The thing that I learned? To let it go (it was painful, and hurtful, but wounds heal).

But, as Rafiki said, “It is in the past”. 

We live, we learn.

Then, we get back up again and live some more. 

Yesterday was a down day. Today will be an up day. It ebbs and flows. Our oceans have been teaching us this principle for years! The mountains have too, but more subtly.

Be it writing or exercising for the first time (again) or practicing a new art, dive in!

If you’re a writer who needs a prompt, then you’ve let go of your childhood. Pick up a rock, turn it into an alien, or a monster, or imagine the hill it came from, or the treasure buried deep inside.

I just told a bunch of kids in a high school English class that Game of Thrones is really a love story. It is! Those people are doing everything they are doing for the love of themselves, the love of family names, the love of each other, the love of warring in order to find peace.

It doesn’t matter what you write as long as you write. Don’t worry about what people think when they read it. That has nothing to do with you as a writer.

It doesn’t matter where you think your typing is going to take the story, as long as the story is willing to go where you want it to, but usually, once you’re in the flow of things, it’s more like that story is going to take you for a ride you didn’t know existed.

You can set out with a blank sheet of paper, a pen, and silly words you make up on the spot. Then, figure out what they mean. Then, use them in a sentence. Follow that by attaching them to an object, person or place. Are they adjectives? Nouns? Pronouns? Verbs?

Get those little silly words working for you. I myself am on an endless quest to replace my potty mouth words with something more charming. It’s a process. I like saying, “fuck” but wince when I hear other people say it.

Weird, right?!

756a59eeabdae7b86dea3f7e1c93a270The point is …. people throughout time have asked the classic question, “How do I write a book?”, the classic answer is, “sit your ass down in a chair and write”.

Or, er, some variation of that, with or without sass.

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Happy Writing!

That’s what I’ll be doing today too.

Daly KH

You can find me doing my Reiki/Coaching thing at

http://www.henryhealing.com

Or, on Facebook @HenryHealingReikiCoach

Cheers!

p.s… ALL meme’s are saved to my Pinterest boards Clarity or The UnWise Owl Companion. You’re welcome to check them out too.

 

Writer on Writing

Have you written a book? You’re a writer. Do you have ideas for new works of fiction, followed by writing them down, followed by turning them into a tangible story? You’re a writer. Do you think about where, when, and how you’re going to get some writing in during the day? You’re a writer.

Yep. Even before you let someone else read it. The debate? Do you tell people that you’re a writer. Someone told me to. I no longer agree. The general not-so-well-wishing public were pretty shitty about the fact that I hadn’t published. If you have good people who love and support you, then, YES, tell them. If you have asshats who will mock you no matter what (that was my case), don’t tell them anything! As a matter of fact, why are you even still talking to them? writinghayes.jpg

Getting published means that you’re a published writer. Getting on some list somewhere means, a. you’re lucky, b. you have friends in the right places, or c. you’re really good at writing and publishing.

Do you have a bucket (wall, hook, folder, drawer, etc.) full of rejection letters that for whatever reason, you either kept or ceremoniously burn? Yep! Writer.

Do you take your rejections with a grain of sand, then dust off the page to begin again? Writing for writing sake? You’re a writer. IF your feelings are hurt by the rejections (the 1st few sting a bit, and sometimes have ‘mean’ or ‘snark’ in them)…. the skin toughens with time.

Are you going to let your critics beat you into never writing again? Well, I can help coach you through that fatal flaw (fatal, because that means your words will have died). I was there once upon a time. I beat that monster. Screw them!

1e79dc738cd17cf2dc344e26e75c2b19.jpgCritics of your genre? Sure! There are going to be critics of your writing, your genre, your voice (writer’s voice, everyone has one) and the way your book looks on a shelf. The world is FULL of critics. My personal favorites? Those who have never written a word but have TONS of advice about how to write a book.

My response? Oh, so you’re a nurse? Awesome. Know what? How about you don’t give me advice how to write, and I won’t give you advice about where to stick that needle. Oh, you’re a neurosurgeon? Fire fighter? Custodian? Psychologist (well, I can give some expert advice there too)…. um, financial analyst? (you get the picture)….. same thing.

The meme I like to quote the most?  “Be You. Everyone else is taken”.

  1. We all have something we’re experts at. Or, really, really good at. Be that. Stick with that.
  2. Part of being a writer is you’re also a professional reader. Read. Seriously. A lot.
  3. Part of being a writer is to stay weird. As weird as you want to get the power juices flowing in that noodle of yours.
  4. Write as much as you’d like, as often as you like.
  5. Find your writer tribe. I have several. I’m weird as hell. Now, I know that so are they. I don’t spend a lot of time with people who don’t get me. I almost let the non-weirdo-non-writer-types crush my spirit. Then, I went to a couple of writer conferences. It was an instant shift in reality that I’m not the only one who thought that way.

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Writer’s who are mega writers are still people. That means, they are human beings with feelings, a job, a family, interests outside of writing. Maybe, don’t ask them to read your book. Maybe, “friend” them to learn from them, more than push your junk in their face. They will not push their junk in your face. NEVER ask another writer to edit/publish/read/review your work without knowing them. NEVER tell a professional writer what to do to make it better. This is the stuff of silence as the response. If you want that… do that incurable rude stuff. I promise they will “un” friend you quickly.

BUT….. break the rules, deconstruct all you want…. mash it up, twist it about… most important…. don’t be afraid of words…. they are your tools.

Play nice. Be polite. Treat others well or play nice. Remember your manners. Seek the answers BEFORE asking the sophomoric questions out of laziness, knowing that the more basic questions have been asked a thousand times before. If there are writers you want to be friends with but they are jerks, writer’s are people. Some people are jerks. It’s okay. More of them are cool.

MOST of all….. find your write time to write (that was a pun). Get used to puns, metaphors and OH…… people who will try to sell you their “best course ever” on writing.

Think of the advice that Santa Clause gave to Buddy the Elf in the movie Elf. There’s some stuff that SHOULD be common sense.

Then, find your own path. Don’t always trust the people who are eager to help you. They may light you on fire and steal your work. I know! It’s happened to me twice.

If you’re serious about writing. Remember, it’s a business first. A passion driven business, but the successful writer’s know it’s also their business.

IF you LOVE to write…… welcome to the club. IF you want to write but don’t, then you know what to do. IF you have “all these great ideas”….. well, nobody can help you with that unless you are a celebrity OR, make a sex tape.

I’ve met a LOT of writers. Most of them? Well, they’re probably not going to make a sex tape, but then…. they are the #1 people who will NOT be afraid to talk about it.

MY writer tribe work in the romance genre. They’re not afraid to wear tiaras OR talk about sex tapes. OH, and did I mention that most of them are HIGHLY intelligent, well educated, SMART and funny women?

OH…. and for Pete’s sake … do NOT, and I repeat… NEVER … think that you have to be perfect. Strive for it. It’s a good goal to be flawless … but it will also drive you mad. Perfectionists are missing something to.

Have fun writing. Life’s too short to be spending all of your breaths on something you hate.

Karen

Owner, Practitioner

Henry Healing (Reiki/Psychology based Life Coach, Writer and Artist)

Facebook (Author page): @KarenDalyAuthor

Facebook (Reiki/Coach page): @HenryHealingReikiCoach

p.s…. as I’m writing this, I’m watching Facebook live… April the giraffe is giving birth. It’s quite a spectacular thing to behold. Don’t judge.

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FINALLY… my elevator speech

So, years ago, when I was struggling with my personal life while forging a new identity in the life coaching industry, I kept hearing, “get an elevator speech”, “get an elevator speech”….. I don’t do “talk” shop in elevators. The very thought of the idea made me cringe. I’m an ambivert so can happily spend days, weeks, months… never talking to a single person. I hear my tribe (writers) talking about this all the time.

I’m also a Jabberwocky, so… can talk a mile a minute while telling a story. Yes, it is possible for a great listener to also be a great talker. That’s what introverted extroverts OR, extroverted introverts do. We’re ambidextrous with our thought patterns & social skills. Not all people fit in the same cookie cutter box of crayons.

sorry…. too many metaphors happened to my brain all at once. 

Also, broken crayons still color (my favorite quote, don’t know who said it first). Anywho… so I struggled with the elevator speech. Now I know why.

I didn’t FEEL like a business person. I didn’t FEEL connected to the art of coaching, though I did have the technical stuff down. I did have the training (4 years worth actually). I did have the book in the queue (still do…. it’s coming when I want it to be released). I had all of it, except… that damn speech that I learned to resent.

Now, I get it and have it. I needed clarity on who I am in relation TO the speech. Yeah, some squirrels need to get hit in the head with a few nuts before moving on to softer fare.

Here it is:

The mission of Henry Healing  is to create community, comfort and clarity through kindness with a holistic approach to positive balance. 

BAM!

  • One sentence (perfect length)
  • Not too sappy or nauseatingly corny (hate that)
  • Explains my professional identity (when I’m not writing fiction or painting something)
  • I can memorize it (and still look myself in the mirror without saying, ‘wtf’)
  • I KNOW the soft skills stuff. I have to learn the hard core, “It’s not personal, it’s business” part of the business.

So what now? On to boating school Mrs. Puff!

Oh wait, that was Sponge Bob. But basically, I feel like Sponge Bob on most days. So, it applies. I’m starting my life all over again. That takes work and laser like focus on what’s missing. I’m now convinced that I’ve been both under the sea in this world that went full speed ahead, while I was floating around in a dingy, watching kid’s shows. It took me a LONG time to realize that my only awareness of the world was from the perspective of my kid’s reality. When I re-entered the world of grown ups…. honestly, I didn’t like what I saw. I wanted to go back. Childhood is SO much more fun than adulting.

Adulting
is hard.

direction of the wind and sailsNow? I’m adjusting the sails to meet the wind, rather than doing what I was doing for the first three years as a solo parent/person… fighting with the wind.

That’s what trauma does to you. It sends you so far off course, you have NO idea where you are. 

Focusing on strengths helps to raise awareness on one’s limitations. Boating school, in my case, is actually business school.

This is just the beginning.

NOW….. back to writing and art!

Warm Wishes!

Daly Henry Miller, Karen

If you’d like to follow along my journey toward full time writing, art, coaching and general tom foolery, here’s my social media stuff. Clarity & Transparency are a good way to keep the boogie man at bay.

The UnWise Owl needed a nest. Henry Healing is that space.

Yes. I make bird humor metaphors. I’m not sorry. There’s a lot to learn about life. Doing so while also having a bit of fun with the love of life is the goal for all of it isn’t it? Yes. I have a corny sense of humor and think that Monty Python is genius. I still wish Amy Poehler and Tina Fey would run for President. There’s still hope. I am not sorry. I find brilliance in the ridiculous. Joy in the little things. To me, calling my business and books the UN-wise owl is genius & hilarious. In a dry, corny, *sigh if you don’t get it* sort of way.

amy-poehlerFor YEARS I’ve wanted to write the “what not to wear in a relationship” book. I have TERRIBLE taste in men. Horrible. DUMB mistakes. Clearly bad at it. Except three. I have been blessed with exactly 3 males who have been the sunshine of my life.

  1. My son who is the most extraordinary male on the planet.
  2. My bff who doesn’t make sense to anyone else (none of anyone’s business)  and yet brother by another mother trusted friend.
  3. Jesus. ‘Nuff said there.

 

All others? Nope. They live in the land of nope.

abraham-maslowI’m not talking about work colleagues or casual acquaintances. We don’t know them well enough to trust them with our precious cargo (our hearts or thoughts). And nor should we. Every man I ever gave my precious cargo to, tossed it out the window and backed over it with his truck before moving on to the next sucker. S’it’s all good now. But damn that stuff hurts when it’s happening.

FYI:

Every female should balance her life with a male buddy. Gender fluid or otherwise. No matter. Estrogen and Testosterone flows in all of us. Balance has a lot to do with it.

**This is the topic of the book I’m working on now under Karen Daly**

But I digress. The world is a kaleidoscope of experiences. Human beings are no different. The tone of our lives ~ personal & professional; the meaning of the work we do; the management of our homes and the aesthetic practical daily living… all of it… all of it has a place. When we’re out of balance, we become the stressed out, cranky sods who hate life.

Science of Psychology

I spent the better part of a decade studying at the doctoral level in how to apply a positive psychology to the lives of individuals. Abraham Maslow coined the term in the ’50’s. Martin Seligman made it popular in the 90’s. Today, it’s exploded. It’s not new. Ancient philosophers of both Eastern and Western civilizations were the first to write about the art of living well, living a good life, a balanced life, a meaningful life. None of it is new. Applying it in the holistic practice of healing …. also not new. yin yang, bad good black white.jpg

Science of Aesthetics

I love to write, to create, to discover what I can or can’t do. We don’t know unless we try something out. I’ve just done so very publicly for the past few years. I’m not ashamed of my failures. Failures are simply part of the learning curve.

In truth, everyone’s going to immediately jet to the internet to see what they can find out about someone. Those same people will automatically question the sanity of the individual who puts everything out there on the net for all the world to see.

Know what survivors do? They stand and fight. Know what thrivers do? They never apologize, or feel shame for what didn’t work. 

As a matter of fact, successful people are just as happy with the glob of clay that fell off the wheel as the perfect pot that made it to the kiln. Why? Because the glob is a talisman of where they were compared to the piece that makes it to the museum. It’s a lot like life itself.paint-this-2

Hold onto what you love. It’s nobody’s right to take any part of your life away from you.

That’s how Henry Healing became the space where the UnWise Owl will thrive. I needed an office. I needed to not ignore all those years of schooling and practice. I needed not to ignore the manifestation of a ‘wish’. I wanted to create a space of both science and art.

The logical meets the illogical. The playground for creativity.

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Henry Healing featuring the UnWise Owl is the manifestation of the realization that nothing ever worked because I wasn’t doing what I wanted or should have been doing.

I’m so delighted and thrilled to be creating a holistic health practice where I can write, create, art, and explore new ways to help others do the same.

The UnWise Owl Companion is my 1st featured book on the shelf. The 7 principles are pretty simple.

https://www.henryhealing.com/

 

Love your life. Be you. Everyone else will adjust. 

Peace & Love

Karen

 

In a single moment …

Lucy. Love yourself first..jpgkarendaly.org represents a writer and artist who expresses herself through whimsy and fun. The evolution is described in the first installment of the UnWise Owl Companion.

That is how we build our world. One brick at a time. A successful woman uses the bricks thrown at her by her offenders to build an entirely new life.

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The UnWise Owl and Murray’s companion is all about Comfort & Joy. The evolution has found a forever home, but no truly great journey is without road blocks, pot holes, bumps, hard days of rain, and soft days of clarity.

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I know why I went through so much heartache, darkness, fear, anxiety, and trauma. I know that mountain now. I’ve been called to help others navigate the terrain of change.

A whole person understands the balance.

 

I’ve been busy over this past year. Opening the UnWise Owl featuring the writing of Karen Daly has been building the foundation.

Now, to build the empire on that foundation. I’ve just opened Henry Healing, a holistic health and wellness center. I now specialize in Reiki ~ Coaching ~ Life & Death Doula.

Just to be clear, I’ve found a way to enjoy my creative side as a fiction writer and artist while also working on helping and healing with my academic training.

Why do both?

Because I want to.

karendaly.org has chosen to donate 20% of all sales of books & art to local charities that provide direct care to women and children.

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I’ve also opened a Facebook page for the Henry Healing. You’re welcome to follow.

https://www.facebook.com/HolisticReikiCoach/

Life has a funny way of forcing us to take a good, long, hard look at ourselves.

I for one am forever grateful for climbing the Mt. Everest of emotional roller coasters. The good, the bad, the ugly, the stupid, the holy shit that sucks, and then… the gentler, kinder, sweeter experiences that settled on my shoulder to introduce me to my angels.

This is life. A whole person approach to celebrating the fact that

  1. We can do anything we want
  2. We can find our courage in our creativity
  3. We can be peace loving beings who also say f*ck a lot.
  4. Above all else, a great sense of humor heals all wounds.

Friday the 10th, I’m hosting a Facebook Live event from 7 pm to 9 pm to launch the virtual Henry Healing business. You’re welcome if your nice. I’ll block you if your naughty.

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It’s all…. all of it …. about Comfort & Joy, Kindness & Love, Peace & Productive People.

p.s…. the meme’s are all saved to the UnWise Owl Companion on my Pinterest page.

Social and Media

The world is a very big place. We’re both in all of it, while also detached to the point where the human psyche is changing completely.

This is my little corner of it. I’ve reached people and places far and wide. My home is in my heart. I have found the road map toward balance.Green, Everyone has a history..jpg

The adventure of a lifetime now makes way for a new dawn, a new day, a new life….. and I’m feeling good.

I’m also here to continue to share, but I’ve adjusted my sails to find my stars.

This is the first page of a new novel.

The rest is yet to come ….

 

 

 

 

 

 

Every image I share, I also save to Pinterest @ the UnWise Owl Companion. Our window on the world. Our postcards from the edge.

2017 is our year of healing, awakening, and envisioning how we can live better lives.

Peace!

K~

 

 

 

Stillness & the practice of Reiki

If you’ve ever met me in person, you’d think, “she’s a Reiki Master now?” Say what???

Yep. I’m not a still person. Hyper as they come on occasion, though cutting down on coffee really helps that. No, I won’t be giving it up, pft! Are you mad?!!! 🙂 It’s my only vise at the moment.

I’m me, being me and for the first time in 50 years, super happy to live authentically, without apologies or excuses, or bending my own methodology for living life to someone else’s script. This is the freedom of the open cage door.

What I am? What I’ve fought hard for? What I’ve achieved through mastery? To be calm in the chaos. I have found my Zen in the chaos of my life.

I am peaceful through pain in my journey trough the rain. I am connected and co-created through my spiritual journey. I am a hard earned thriver with grit, determination, blood, sweet and tears.

No one discipline can define the total human experience. No human untouched by suffering can ever know the pure bliss of empathy, compassion, deep appreciation for life itself. We either sit in the darkness or seek out the light.

And I do it all through my passion for finding what I was searching for. Peace.

Now, I bring it to others. That body of knowledge collected over two decades of a 25 year journey.

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Please feel free to join my journey through what I like to think of as post cards of sharing and caring over on my Pinterest pages (Instagram to follow).

Also, if you’re interested in Distance Reiki, I’ll be posting how you can contact me for that this weekend. We’re still shopping for the perfect face to face space for now. And I don’t do door to door. Though way back in my girl scout phase, I owned those cookies like a boss! The old fashioned way. By myself, on foot, without my parent’s workplace to help me.

I’m a real life, authentic, old school, DIY sort of girl, and I’m damn proud of it.

Warm Wishes from the house of the UnWise Owl!

Karen